Infidelity Counseling

Discovering infidelity can feel like a tornado has torn through your home. In any other crisis you might turn to your partner for comfort, but this time your partner caused the damage. It can feel impossible to make sense of what happened or to see a way forward.

Healing after infidelity is possible. We help you take it one step at a time, whether you were betrayed, you had the affair, or you are working on it together.

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Who it's for

We work with the person who was betrayed and with the person who did the betraying, individually and as a couple.

Common concerns

  • Intrusive thoughts and flashbacks
  • Anxiety and panic attacks
  • Trouble sleeping, eating or concentrating
  • Difficulty making decisions
  • Constantly searching for information about the affair
  • Anger and irritability
  • Pulling away from others, or finding it hard to confide in anyone
  • Questioning your faith
  • Loss of confidence and self-esteem

What to expect

Discovering a betrayal can be traumatic. It becomes hard to tell what is true from what isn't, and trickled disclosures of information only make it more difficult.

Many people find it hard to trust themselves: their decisions, their judgment, and whether they are to blame. Your therapist helps you rebuild that trust and work through the triggers the betrayal created, so you can make the decisions in front of you and move toward healing.

How we work

We take a comprehensive approach: trauma, attachment, emotional regulation and coping skills, boundaries and healthy communication are all part of it. You and your therapist build a plan for you, and for your relationship if that applies.

You don't need to know if you want to stay in your relationship or leave to get started in the healing process. For couples who do want to heal the relationship, we recommend both individual and couples counseling, so the infidelity is addressed head on while each of you does your own work.

Therapists who offer Infidelity Counseling

A therapist on the Waitlist isn't taking new clients right now. You can still choose them in your consultation request.

  • Stevie Cotet

    PhD, LPC-S, CSAT-S, CCTP

    Works with couples and individuals facing betrayal, compulsive sexual behavior and sexual concerns. Author of the Relational Empathy Assessment (REA). Direct, collaborative and accepting.

    Waitlist

  • Moe Hamdan

    LPC Associate, MS, NCC, CCTP-II Supervised by Stevie Cotet

    Works with individuals, couples and adolescents facing compulsive sexual behavior, betrayal and trauma, emotional dysregulation and addiction. Intentionally direct, deliberate and honest.

    Accepting

Common questions

Is it possible to heal from infidelity?

Yes. Moving forward means learning to trust yourself and others again and working through the triggers the betrayal created. If you were betrayed, it can feel unfair to carry the work of healing from something you didn't cause. We are here to help you take those steps.

I'm the one who had the affair. Can you help me?

Yes. Therapy helps you understand the layers underneath your affair(s), so you can pull the pattern up by the root rather than just cutting it back.

Do we need individual counseling, couples counseling, or both?

For couples who want to heal the relationship, we recommend both. Individual counseling helps each of you heal in the ways you need to, while couples counseling addresses the relationship wound that now exists.

Read about Couples Therapy

Start with a free consultation

Send a consultation request and we'll get back to you to arrange a free 10–⁠15 minute phone call with a therapist. It's a chance to ask questions and see if we're a good fit.

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Or call 469-505-3416